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America’s Best Kept Secret: How fruits & vegetables can extend your life
Posted by: | CommentsThe government produces the Dietary Guidelines for Americans every five years this document is then used by dieticians, nutritionists and other health practitioners. My take away from this document was that 1/3 of the U.S. population which is 90 million people suffer from chronic diseases that are related to a poor diet and lack of exercise. Some of these diseases include cancer, heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes and osteoporosis. This document further discusses how a poor diet and a sedentary lifestyle is a major cause of death in the U.S. in fact it’s the second highest cause of death right behind smoking!
As I read thru that document I thought to myself, why didn’t I know this? I suppose it wasn’t earth shattering enough for the big papers to pick it up.
As moms we can actually either extend our life and our families or prematurely shorten it by our food choices and how much we move! Amazing isn’t it or maybe a little daunting? So now you’re probably wondering where do I start?
Let’s keep it simple by eating more fruits and vegetables. In this same report it discusses how certain cancers, heart disease, stroke and other diseases can be prevented by eating a wide variety of fruits and vegetables. The recommendation is 9 to 13 servings of fruit and vegetables a day. I know that sounds like a lot but start by just eating more than you are currently doing. We all are so busy and I know it’s tough to even make a home cooked meal much less get your kids to eat more “green stuff”. My family has recently taken out dairy and meat and focuses on eating a plant based whole food diet but it’s still hard to get in all the fruits and vegetables the USDA requires on a daily basis. That’s why we fill in the gaps with Juice Plus, which is 17 vine ripened fruits and vegetables in capsule and gummy form.
Cut the Stress by Simplifying Your Life
Posted by: | CommentsThe stress in our life is often brought on by our choices and reactions to people and situations. We can choose to not volunteer as much this year or choose to take on less responsibility at home and work. Our reactions to “stressful” things in our life can be reduced if we decide to let less things bug us. Here are a couple more quick tips to simplify your life reduce the stress and create more harmony:
1. Buy less stuff we clutter up our home, closets and garages with things that seemed to be important. But often if asked a week or two ago about what you purchased you will likely not remember. Instead choose to spend your money on great experiences. For example, instead of buying another pair of jeans or another toy. Take that money and save it up for a special trip, the day at the zoo or a massage. The memories you create will outlast pretty much anything you buy.
2. Automate – If you’re still paying bills by snail mail most everyone now can be set up with an automatic payment or paid online. This will free up your time and precious memory stores.
3. Clean out your closet or a room. Put aside several hours or more to do this. Throw away or donate anything you haven’t worn in the past year. Find a permanent place for everything. Having even one organized place in your home can really help make your home feel like home. There’s something about cleaning and having a tidy area that can free up your mind mentally and can be so relaxing.
How to Bust Thru Your Weightloss Plateau
Posted by: | CommentsDid you reach a weight loss plateau and can’t get out of it?
Take a break and focus less on your weight and more on enjoying the summer with your family. You will be amazed at how just relaxing and letting your mind focus on the positive will allow room for you to break thru your plateau.
Are You Doing Your Part?
Posted by: | CommentsAs a mom and a parent we are always working toward making a better future for our kids. We want them to be prepared for school and have the best education possible. We will hire tutors and get them involved in extracurricular activities to give them a leg up. We want them to have a better life than we had. Below is Paul Hawkins commencement address at the University of Portland. His speech made me realize that having a better life must also inlcude taking care of the earth our “mother ship” that we take for granted. A very humbling and inspiring speech. Enjoy!!
Paul Hawkins
Commencement Address to the Class of 2009
University of Portland, May 3rd, 2009
When I was invited to give this speech, I was asked if I could give a simple short talk that was “direct, naked, taut, honest, passionate, lean, shivering, startling, and graceful.” No pressure there.
Let’s begin with the startling part. Class of 2009: you are going to have to figure out what it means to be a human being on earth at a time when every living system is declining, and the rate of decline is accelerating. Kind of a mind-boggling situation… but not one peer-reviewed paper published in the last thirty years can refute that statement. Basically, civilization needs a new operating system, you are the programmers, and we need it within a few decades.This planet came with a set of instructions, but we seem to have misplaced them. Important rules like don’t poison the water, soil, or air, don’t let the earth get overcrowded, and don’t touch the thermostat have been broken. Buckminster Fuller said that spaceship earth was so ingeniously designed that no one has a clue that we are on one, flying through the universe at a million miles per hour, with no need for seatbelts, lots of room in coach, and really good food—but all that is changing.
There is invisible writing on the back of the diploma you will receive, and in case you didn’t bring lemon juice to decode it, I can tell you what it says: You are Brilliant, and the Earth is Hiring. The earth couldn’t afford to send recruiters or limos to your school. It sent you rain,sunsets, ripe cherries, night blooming jasmine, and that unbelievably cute person you are dating. Take the hint. And here’s the deal: Forget that this task of planet-saving is not possible in the time required. Don’t be put off by people who know what is not possible. Do what needs to be done, and check to see if it was impossible only after you are done.
When asked if I am pessimistic or optimistic about the future, my answer is always the same:
If you look at the science about what is happening on earth and aren’t pessimistic, you don’t understand the data. But if you meet the people who are working to restore this earth and the lives of the poor, and you aren’t optimistic, you haven’t got a pulse. What I see
everywhere in the world are ordinary people willing to confront despair, power, and
incalculable odds in order to restore some semblance of grace, justice, and beauty to this
world. The poet Adrienne Rich wrote, “So much has been destroyed I have cast my lot with
those who, age after age, perversely, with no extraordinary power, reconstitute the world.”
There could be no better description. Humanity is coalescing. It is reconstituting the world, and the action is taking place in schoolrooms, farms, jungles, villages, campuses, companies, refuge camps, deserts, fisheries, and slums.
You join a multitude of caring people. No one knows how many groups and organizations are
working on the most salient issues of our day: climate change, poverty, deforestation, peace, water, hunger, conservation, human rights, and more. This is the largest movement the world has ever seen. Rather than control, it seeks connection. Rather than dominance, it strives to disperse concentrations of power. Like Mercy Corps, it works behind the scenes and gets the job done. Large as it is, no one knows the true size of this movement. It provides hope, support, and meaning to billions of people in the world. Its clout resides in idea, not in force. It is made up of teachers, children, peasants, businesspeople, rappers, organic farmers, nuns, artists, government workers, fisherfolk, engineers, students, incorrigible writers, weeping Muslims, concerned mothers, poets, doctors without borders, grieving Christians, street musicians, the President of the United States of America, and as the writer David JamesDuncan would say, the Creator, the One who loves us all in such a huge way.
There is a rabbinical teaching that says if the world is ending and the Messiah arrives, first plant a tree, and then see if the story is true. Inspiration is not garnered from the litanies of what may befall us; it resides in humanity’s willingness to restore, redress, reform, rebuild, recover, reimagine, and reconsider. “One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice,” is Mary Oliver’s description of moving away from the profane toward a deep sense of connectedness to the living world.
Millions of people are working on behalf of strangers, even if the evening news is usually
about the death of strangers. This kindness of strangers has religious, even mythic origins,
and very specific eighteenth-century roots. Abolitionists were the first people to create a
national and global movement to defend the rights of those they did not know. Until that
time, no group had filed a grievance except on behalf of itself. The founders of this
movement were largely unknown — Granville Clark, Thomas Clarkson, Josiah Wedgwood —
and their goal was ridiculous on the face of it: at that time three out of four people in the world were enslaved. Enslaving each other was what human beings had done for ages. And
the abolitionist movement was greeted with incredulity. Conservative spokesmen ridiculed
the abolitionists as liberals, progressives, do-gooders, meddlers, and activists. They were told they would ruin the economy and drive England into poverty. But for the first time in history a group of people organized themselves to help people they would never know, from whom they would never receive direct or indirect benefit. And today tens of millions of
people do this every day. It is called the world of non-profits, civil society, schools, social entrepreneurship, non-governmental organizations, and companies who place social and
environmental justice at the top of their strategic goals. The scope and scale of this effort is unparalleled in history.
The living world is not “out there” somewhere, but in your heart. What do we know about life? In the words of biologist Janine Benyus, life creates the conditions that are conducive to life. I can think of no better motto for a future economy. We have tens of thousands of abandoned homes without people and tens of thousands of abandoned people without homes. We have failed bankers advising failed regulators on how to save failed assets. We are the only species on the planet without full employment. Brilliant. We have an economy that tells us that it is cheaper to destroy earth in real time rather than renew, restore, and sustain it. You can print money to bail out a bank but you can’t print life to bail out a planet. At present we are stealing the future, selling it in the present, and calling it gross domestic product. We can just as easily have an economy that is based on healing the future instead of stealing it. We can either create assets for the future or take the assets of the future. One is called restoration and the other exploitation. And whenever we exploit the earth we exploit people and cause untold suffering. Working for the earth is not a way to get rich, it is a way to be rich.
The first living cell came into being nearly 40 million centuries ago, and its direct
descendants are in all of our bloodstreams. Literally you are breathing molecules this very
second that were inhaled by Moses, Mother Teresa, and Bono. We are vastly interconnected.
Our fates are inseparable. We are here because the dream of every cell is to become two
cells. And dreams come true. In each of you are one quadrillion cells, 90 percent of which are not human cells. Your body is a community, and without those other microorganisms you
would perish in hours. Each human cell has 400 billion molecules conducting millions of
processes between trillions of atoms. The total cellular activity in one human body is
staggering: one septillion actions at any one moment, a one with twenty-four zeros after it.
In a millisecond, our body has undergone ten times more processes than there are stars in the universe, which is exactly what Charles Darwin foretold when he said science would discover that each living creature was a “little universe, formed of a host of self-propagating organisms, inconceivably minute and as numerous as the stars of heaven.”
So I have two questions for you all: First, can you feel your body? Stop for a moment. Feel
your body. One septillion activities going on simultaneously, and your body does this so well you are free to ignore it, and wonder instead when this speech will end. You can feel it. It is called life. This is who you are. Second question: who is in charge of your body? Who is managing those molecules? Hopefully not a political party. Life is creating the conditions that are conducive to life inside you, just as in all of nature. Our innate nature is to create the conditions that are conducive to life. What I want you to imagine is that collectively humanity is evincing a deep innate wisdom in coming together to heal the wounds and insults of the past.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once asked what we would do if the stars only came out once every
thousand years. No one would sleep that night, of course. The world would create new
religions overnight. We would be ecstatic, delirious, made rapturous by the glory of God.
Instead, the stars come out every night and we watch television.
This extraordinary time when we are globally aware of each other and the multiple dangers
that threaten civilization has never happened, not in a thousand years, not in ten thousand
years. Each of us is as complex and beautiful as all the stars in the universe. We have done
great things and we have gone way off course in terms of honoring creation. You are
graduating to the most amazing, stupefying challenge ever bequested to any generation. The
generations before you failed. They didn’t stay up all night. They got distracted and lost sight of the fact that life is a miracle every moment of your existence. Nature beckons you to be on her side. You couldn’t ask for a better boss. The most unrealistic person in the world is the cynic, not the dreamer. Hope only makes sense when it doesn’t make sense to be hopeful.

This is your century. Take it and run as if your life depends on it.
Mom’s Rejuvenate by throwing out your to do list
Posted by: | CommentsAs busy mom’s we have a never ending to do list. Every time we cross off one item there are three more to replace them. When was the last time you did doing nothing? This isn’t a trick question. If the only time that comes to mind was when you were deathly ill in bed, that doesn’t count. Devote a part of your Memorial weekend to do nothing. No email, no phone calls, no cleaning etc. Taking some down time will rejuvenate you and refill your energy stores so you can tackle with more ease the challenges of being a busy mom.
Happy Mothers Day!!
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As our loved ones take the extra effort in embracing you with their love and appreciation for all that you do. I hope you will take sometime this weekend to truly relish in all that you do. As moms we often forget to acknowledge how magnificent we really are.
Are You Truly Hungry….
Posted by: | CommentsMany moms including myself reach for food or a drink when we are anxious, upset, overwhelmed and stressed. Without thinking we go for sweets, salty foods or alcohol to make the unconformable negative feelings go away. We hunger not for the ice cream or chocolate but for inner peace and connection. We want joy and serenity.
Tip: So next time you reach for something to eat take a moment and ask yourself if you’re really hungry. Are you eating because you’re physically hungry? Or maybe you’re anxious. Going for a walk will better serve you than a tummy full of food that will never satisfy your true cravings…
Take A Moment to Pause
Posted by: | CommentsI have my taxes in to my CPA and I’m holding my breath for good news! I know this time of the year can be stressful. I spent a few days looking for my husband’s W-2 which was nerve wracking since I’m the “organized one” of the family. Or so I thought. :) Despite the tax season April is a great month of reawakening. The flowers are starting to bloom and I’m seeing more birds in the area. I love the changes of the season. The cherry blossoms are blooming in my neighborhood which gives everything such a spring feel despite the cold weather that is still lingering. I hope you will take a moment this month and pause and step outside and notice the changes of the season. No matter where you live either in a city or in the country there are beautiful changes happening all around us.
Invest in Yourself and Your Family Will Thank You For It
Posted by: | CommentsWhen was the last time you took the time to rejuvenate yourself, to relax and decompress? I know we seem to be in a frantic superwoman mode juggling two to three things at a time; but even superwoman needs to take some time for self-care. Heck, the power cells can only last for so long before they drain completely.
As moms we focus on taking care of everyone else before ourselves, but we actually have it backwards. When the stewardess on the airplane goes over the emergency rules, they always say “put on your oxygen mask first before your child’s”; if you’re passed out, how can you save your little ones? This also applies to everyday life, how can we be a good mom, if we are constantly giving up our time and energy and never take the opportunity to refuel ourselves?
Even the most powerful battery will deplete its stores down to the point of nothing if it is never given the chance to restore its charge.
The most important concepts to embrace is: to schedule in time for yourself. You need to decide whether it needs to happen once a week or more often. It’s up to you to decide what you need to help you keep your sanity.
Here are some simple tips to get you back into superwoman condition.
Tip 1: Take a bubble bath with no interruptions. Add the extra comforts and use a relaxing scent such as lavender or some bath oils.
Tip2: Read a fun entertaining book. This will give your mind a mini vacation to take the edge off of what’s going on around you.
Tip 3: Get outdoors and enjoy nature. Regardless if you live in the city or out in the country. Slow down and take in the moment of your surroundings. Take deep methodical breaths. Find something beautiful, and soak in it.
